What marriage represents

All fairy tales, wedding dresses and flowers aside I really wanted to take the time and write about what I feel marriage represents both here on earth and in heaven. I struggled for a long time about the metaphor of Christ and His church symbolizing The Groom and his Bride.

I see Christ as a father and a friend. I see him as a support system and someone to lean on, but not as a groom. I wasn’t sure if the metaphor was only supposed to be grasped by certain people or all of us. Then I came across a song entitled “My Beloved”. It was written by Tenth Avenue North and it is a song of Jesus singing to his bride. Listening to it was my first step towards understanding.

http://youtu.be/6CUGTIWCFyo

 

Another struggle that kept me away from this concept was why a man and woman even though so in love would stay together for the rest of their lives. As much as I claim to be a hopeless romantic I still couldn’t quite wrap my head around unconditional love between unrelated people. Second Corinthians tells us about what real love is and all that it contains. Before I would apply it to marriage and then as if a light bulb went on in my head I realized the love that’s talked about in the bible isn’t between two people but Christ and his bride.

The Lord loves us like a Groom is supposed to love his bride. We are his beloved and the joining of two people here on earth is a symbolism of the joining of us to the Lord Jesus Christ. The commitment is never supposed to be broken. Divorce is not an option just as in Christ’s eyes leaving us or letting us go is not even a thought in His mind

So if that big day comes for you in your life and you’re centering your tie one last time or fluffing your dress once more before you take your first steps down the airse. Please remember that this special day is only a glimpse of how the Lord sees the joining of his children to Himself. When we commit to love one another for better or worse it’s not just words. It’s a life time. For God it’s eternity.

A dueeeeaaammmm is a wish your hauurrtt makes.

Recalling back to my child hood days I am struck by the amount of wedding ceremonies in Disney movies.

First we have Cinderella in her classic white ball gown and her prince all decked out in his big kind shoulder pads and metals. They are whisked away in a carriage and driven off to their happily ever after. This fairy tale couple has also been compared to Prince William and Kate

 

Next we have the Little Mermaid. Ariel and Eric were married on a ship as her father approved on a rock nearby. They waved goodbye to the sea as they were sailed away to complete and utter bliss. As a side note I find it a tad alarming that Eric and Ariel didn’t speak more than 5 sentences to each other through the entire movie.

Next is Beauty and the Beast. There is slight controversy on whether or not Belle and Beast were actually married in the movie or not. All we see is all of their loved ones watching them dance in the ballroom. We would assume marriage except for the fact that Belle is wearing a yellow ball gown as a opposed to a white one.

Aurora and Philip in “Sleeping Beauty” have a similar ending to their happily ever after as well. Both dance together and the story ends with “And they lived happily ever after”

Aurora and Phillip Funny cartoons

Snow white and her prince Charming simply ride off into the sunset with a last picture of a castle and of course a “happily ever after”

And we wonder why marriage and weddings has been imbedded in our brains for so long;)

 

 

Grove City College Weddings

Simply because of curiosity I looked into what it would take to be married on the campus of Grove City College. The results were kind of surprising. For a GCC student or alum the church costs 400.00 for a 3 hour allotted time ceremony and one hour rehearsal the night before. The stipulations are very specific. The 3 hours include getting ready in the church as well as decorating.   

Nothing can be removed from the church for the ceremony. There is a summer wedding schedule as well as a winter one. All of which have allotted times to get married. I can’t find a lot of stats on how many alums get married here but in my experience I’ve witnessed 3 weddings here in the past school year.

Whether or not you decide to get married in Harbison Chapel I think it’s important to note that marriage is marriage no matter where you commit to it. Of course we always make fun of Grove City College students and how they’re always getting married right out of school. After a few surveys of both girls that are in relationships and single I have come up with a few positive and negative reasons to get married on campus.

After surveying my hall, most girls have said they would not get married in Harbison. Their reasons include the distance from family, it’s too cliché, and bad memories from having to sit in there for four years. The minority who said they would get married in the chapel said it was beautiful and would represent where they met their future husband.

 

Wedding Traditions

As most of these blogs are about weddings, anniversaries and the commitment to love I feel it is necessary to address the traditions, “curses”, and ceremonial events of the wedding day. I think it should also be kept in mind that everyone has a different spin on traditions. I will be expressing what I grew up learning and observing and will also be taking into account a few traditions I just learned about.

First and foremost A bride gets ready with her bridal party. There can be one of two locations for this. One being a hotel or venue that is close to the church or the home the bride grew up in and has many fond memories. The groom no matter where he is, is never in the same room or home as the bride during this time

Secondly, though this is not for everyone, a common practice during the prep time is for the bride and groom to exchange gifts via bridal party. They have either written each other letters the night before or the morning of and these are exchanged and read before walking down the aisle.

Most of the time the Bride and Groom get pictures together after the ceremony because the bride and groom are not supposed to see each other before they say “I do”. It is considered bad luck. Another tradition is for the father to walk the bride down the aisle. It represents the main man in her child hood giving her away to the main man in her adult life

The reception is usually accompanied by a father daughter dance, a first couple dance and occasionally a mother son dance. The couple traditionally cuts the cake together and thanks the guests for coming. Though less common now, a couple will also perform a dollar dance.

Near the end of the night the Bride will throw her bouquet and all the single women gather around to catch it. The Groom will grab the garter from the Bride’s leg and throw it to all the bachelors in the room. Tradition says that the woman who catches the bouquet will be married next and so will the man who catches the garter.

These are just a few wedding traditions that occur on people’s special days.

The Kardashian Wedding

Even if you don’t “keep up with” the Kardashians I’d be willing to bet you at least heard of the lightning speed marriage between Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphris. The wedding took place in Montecitio on June 28, 2011. Some well-known guests included Ryan Seacrest, Lindsay Lohan, and Kathy Lee Gifford. The bride’s step dad for 20 years, Bruce Jenner, walked Kim down the aisle.

Both bride and groom changed into different outfits for the reception. According to the news this wedding was heavily protected by security. Even guests were instructed to leave cell phones and cameras at home. The reception was covered by tents to prohibit pictures from being taken above.

There were 400 guests in attendance and the bride wore a Vera Wang dress. Kim’s sister Kourtney’s son was the ring bearer and stole the show with his little white tux.

The cake was 6 feet tall!

After the break up many wondered what happened to Kim’s 20 karot engagement ring. It was later found out that she kept it and the estimated value is 2 million.

The marriage lasted 72 days. There is yet to be disclosure over what exactly went wrong

Response~ millions of dollars were put into this wedding. It was the event of the year. It shocks me how extremely extravagant this event was and yet no amount of money can save a marriage.

Paper Back Weddings

Recently I discovered a website called paperbackweddings.com. This company films every aspect of dozens of weddings. This includes the applying of make-up, the look in the mother of the brides eyes as the wedding dress is slipped onto her daughter, the limo driving off into the sunset and everything in between. For every wedding this company is left with hours and hours of footage. With this footage they pick out the very best and create a video montage lasting only 20 minutes. At first I was skeptical. How can anyone illustrate the greatest day of your life in 20 minutes….and then I watched one of their creations.

(Above ~ Ian and Corbett)

The first wedding I watched was of the marriage of Ian and Corbett. I can honestly say I feel in love with them in the first five minutes. What’s different about paper back weddings is that they get to know the couple before they begin shooting. After watching every video ever made by this company I can attest that each one is unique to the different personalities of each couple. Another unique characteristic of this program is that they will sometimes have music in the background of a once chaotic or sound filled shot and instead we see the shot in silence as a beautiful melody is played. Sometimes we hear sound and conversation, which allows the viewer to take in the reality of what is about to happen.

My favorite part of most of these beautiful films is the giving of gifts to the bride and groom from each other before the big walk down the aisle

(Above ~ Corbett walking down the aisle with mother and father)

Never before have I seen such moving wedding films, and I don’t even know these people:) Ian and Corbett were married last summer. They were the first couple to hire paper back weddings. Since then the company has flourished with more than 100 clients.

The theme of this wedding was very non traditional and yet classy all at the same time. The groomsman wore khakis, white button down shirts and colorful Sperrys. The bridesmaids all wore different colorful dresses with cowboy boots.

(Above ~ Corbett and her bridesmaids)

I love that paper back doesn’t stick with one kind of demographic. The next wedding filmed was in england, another by poolside in Alabama. I have noticed that all the ceremonies so far take place outside.

For better or worse for richer or poorer paperbackweddings.com has redefined the definition of documenting one’s wedding. I would recommend this company for anyone wanting to make their big day even more special.

The wedding of Jennifer Aiston and Brad Pitt

Although Brad and Jennifer were married 12 years ago, it seems that their relationship is constantly brought up in magazines and headlines. I’ve always wondered why there was so much controversy over a marriage that happened to flop. It all comes down to one person….Angelina Jolie. There has been a compare and contrast since the first day Brad said goodbye to Jen and Hello to Angelina. But I’m getting ahead of myself, let’s take a step back to the past shall we?

It was July 29, 2000. A day Jennifer Anniston or the world  will never forget. Two of the most famous celebrities would be promising each other forever.

Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt at Their Wedding

Where~ Malibu California, Estate overlooking the ocean
When~ 6:30pm Ceremony
Who (was in attendance)~ 200 guests including Cameron Diaz, Courtney Cox, Salma Hayek, and Edward Norton.

Prior to the ceremony iced tea and punch were served. As the sun began to set, a 40 piece gospel choir sang Al Bowley’s “Love is the Greatest Thing” as Jennifer walked down the aisle arm in arm with her father. The bride wore a Lawrence Steele dress and the groom wore a Heidi Silmane tuxedo. Brad’s brother and best man wore Prada and Jen’s two bridesmaids wore pale green slip dresses.

The couple wrote their own vows with personal inside jokes and promises about always making Brad’s favorite banana milkshakes. After the ceremony the party moved out onto the lawn where h’orderves were served and a live band played. The wedding was rumored to have cost around one million dollars. The grounds were decorated to look like a zen garden and specialty flowers were flown in from Thailand. Just after 10:00pm guests turned to the sky for a 13 minute firework display while “Who lotta love” and “Just the way you look tonight” was sung.

The following day the couple departed for their honeymoon on Fugate Island.


And of course we all know that Jennifer and Brad didn’t get to have their happily ever after. Their wedding, however, was rated one of the ten best celebrity weddings in history. And on a personal note I have met a casting director who knew Jennifer personally. he said that she was one of the sweetest people he had ever met. So whether or not you like Brad’s current or past partner better….Bradd and Jennifer’s wedding will go down in history as beautiful, stunning and tragic.